Her Juggle: Jess H.

I am so excited to be featured in the series, Her Juggle, over at Breadwinning Mama, an awesome blog that everyone should check out! The “Her Juggle” series focuses on different moms and highlights how they juggle their unending responsibilities. You can check out my juggle here!

I love reading about how other mamas make it all work with their particular circumstances. When I’m feeling overwhelmed (which is most of the time), it makes me feel better knowing that I’m not alone in my juggles and struggles as a mom. Plus, I love getting tips and advice that might help make my juggle easier. I need all the help I can get and, hopefully, other mamas can take something from my juggle as well!

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From Around the Web 2.10.14

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Image courtesy of Pong / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Parenting news and articles from around the web.

* Prepare your kids for the scary world out there. Talking to your children about inappropriate touching and protecting themselves from sexual abuse. [Babble]

* It’s about time.  Finally, guidelines have been developed for preventing strokes in women.  Birth control and pregnancy are factors influencing a woman’s chances of having a stroke. [American Heart Association]

* Just another reason to keep the lines of communication open with your teens. Adults may have better romantic relationships if they had good relationships with their parents during their teen years. [Psych Central]

* New autism findings.  Research shows that autism-related behavior and attention problems may be present as early as six months of age. [USNews]

* West Virginia moves forward to protect pregnant workers so they no longer have to choose between their jobs and the health of their pregnancies. [National Women’s Law Center]

* It’s tough out there for older Millennials. They are living with their parents, underemployed, and potentially going to have less wealth than the previous generation. [Bloomberg]

* You go girl! Spotlight on Jolene Ivey, a Maryland delegate who manages a hectic career and five kids. [Washinton Post]

* Properly installed child safety seats save lives, but still aren’t being used as they should be. [The New York Times]

Mama, Who Are You Wearing?

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Image courtesy of Salvatore Vuono / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

When I was on maternity leave for twelve weeks, I watched a popular makeover show every afternoon while I nursed my daughter.  The hosts made fun of some unsuspecting women, often a working mom, who they felt looked a like mess and who I felt looked like me.  They surprised this woman with a fabulous makeover, including new hair, new makeup, and a new wardrobe.  In every episode, the hosts proceeded to turn the disheveled mom into a chic, put-together, modern woman, someone that we all should strive to be.

That show made me feel a little bad about myself because I prefer wearing sweat pants to the grocery store, not a stylish clothing ensemble replete with costume jewelry and heels.  In my post-partum exhaustion, that show actually convinced me that I should be embarrassed for myself because of how I dressed. After the hormonal, exhausted fog I was living in dissipated, I realized that I really don’t care what people at the grocery store think about how I dress.  In fact, most of the people at the grocery store are dressed just like me.  Seriously, who wants to wear heels and fancy jewelry to walk through the freezer aisle and stand in the deli line?

I don’t have time to primp when a screaming toddler is demanding my attention before work, so I have to get ready quickly.  Also, since my daughter uses my clothes as her tissue, I need to be able to throw them in the wash.  My clothing must be comfortable, easy to clean, and not fussy.

These makeover shows, although entertaining, annoy me because they tell women that they must look a certain way to be accepted by others and feel good about themselves. This is also why I can’t stand the vapid, shallowness of Hollywood and celebrities.  The media makes regular women feel awful about themselves because they can’t look like the unreal, airbrushed images of starved and Botoxed celebrities. These celebrities have nutritionists, plastic surgeons, trainers, stylists, and nannies at their disposal.  The media’s portrayal of these unrealistic images is absolutely unhealthy for women, and awards season is the worst.  It’s amusing to watch with the makeup, the designer clothing, and expensive jewelry, but it’s all so fake.

So when I saw that a group of awesome mom bloggers are sharing who they are wearing this awards season, I just had to show off my working mom style as well.

As a lawyer and a mother, I have to change my outfits throughout the day, so I will start with my fabulous daytime look, which I like to call Lawyer Mom.

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This look consists of:

Outfit – Sale price Anne Klein black suit, covered in dog hair; Sale price Victoria’s Secret dress shirt under the suit jacket that can be thrown in the washer and does not require ironing; Black socks, covered in dog hair; and Black dress boots with a practical and comfortable low heel.

Makeup – Powder and mascara.

Hair – Uncut for over 10 months because I don’t have time to go to the salon and pulled out of my face with some bobby pins.

Accessories – Toddler and wedding band.

After work, I change into my stylish evening wear.  I call this look Comfortable Mom.

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This look consists of:

Outfit – My great-grandma’s hand-me-down fleece zip-up sweater with toddler snot on the shoulder; Pittsburgh Steelers tee under the fleece; TJ Maxx fleece duckie pants that my daughter loves to hug; Nike athletic socks; and J. Crew fleece lined moccasins.

Makeup – None.

Hair – Unbrushed bun.

Accessories – Wedding band.

I know that I have serious style and I pull off my looks flawlessly, regardless of what that makeover show says.  So mamas, who are you wearing this awards season?